My Three Secrets to Confidence: Part I

This is part one of a three-part guest post from Nora Shank

A well-known author recently said on social media, “Nothing's more exhausting than making a big deal out of everything. If the situation is a two, let's quit wasting the energy of a ten on it.” 

Her friend replied, “On the scale from 1-10, where does accidental chubbiness rank? 7? My jeans need a counselor.” The author cheekily said that it depended on how expensive are the jeans.

We all want to be effortlessly confident about our body and health.

But a private war with our jeans can level us flat in five minutes before we even step out the door. It’s a really big deal in our minds.

While a thin-obsessed culture doesn’t help us, we should all admit that we spend a lot of emotional energy on how we feel about our bodies. We can so easily get stuck in our thoughts about good foods versus bad foods, the number on the scale, the satisfaction we feel when we sweat it out in a power flow class versus the days of shame where we hide in sweatpants.

Kellogg’s research found that 67% of women engaged in self-shaming talk weekly, labeling parts of their body with words like ‘kankles’ or ‘muffintops’.

The truth is that we struggle to be confident about our bodies. We are created for beauty, strength and dignity, but we don’t talk to ourselves that way.

I have three secrets to help you find your confidence again.

In this three part series, Jessica has graciously agreed to let me talk to you about how I believe nutrition can help you step towards the life you want and how building body confidence will leak into all the other areas of your life.

The first secret to this confidence is to Think Well.

It is said, “Right thinking precedes right living.”  Wellness isn’t about a what somebody else says; I believe that you need to stop listening to what everyone else says and get away from a dieting mindset and start thinking well about your self.

Choose to ground your thoughts in truth:

You are uniquely beautiful

You are strong (physically, mentally and spiritually)

You have dignity in your worth and work

Thinking well about our body leads us away from a one-size-fits-all model that is dangerous and destructive. Instead of beating yourself up again for that extra cookie, you can practice being well right now by reminding yourself that you are made for beauty, strength and dignity. This has nothing to do with a pants size.

What is YOUR healthy thought about your body today? Give yourself a compliment for how you look. Create grace for your real life like eating pizza AND salad. Celebrate the healthy choices you can make like an extra glass of water or a walk.

As I wrote in my book, The Measure of Success, work has a lifetime arch. Wellness must be viewed this way too. Our lifetime goal is different than losing five pounds next week — we need to reframe our goal to maintain a healthy weight, eat plant-based foods that nourish our activity and steward our bodies for the lifetime tasks we are given. Let’s do that together by starting to Think Well.

For the next few weeks, Jessica has graciously allowed me to share more about how to gain body confidence and lose weight without dieting. You can learn more about how we do that in the Wellness Cohort at